Let them play (Part One)

Let them play (Part One)

Just because it's 10.30 and all of the class must come and sit on the mat and be quiet at this time...that may be what is required for a manageable classroom, but is it what is actually best for children??

What significant natural developmental processes are we interrupting & depriving them of by pushing structured 'learning' so early?

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How would you live if you were a VIP?

How would you live if you were a VIP?

I've spent a lot of years (whole life?) feeling like not a very important person. Never mind being a VIP, I’ve hardly felt like an IP. Often not even just a P.

More like a piece of chewed up gum that someone is now frustrated at because they have to stop and find a stick to scrape me off their shoe.

This, clearly, is not a very fun way to feel. And it definitely doesn’t lead to a life filled with success and purpose and fulfilled potential. 

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Community and Individualism - is there a right way?

Community and Individualism - is there a right way?

Which was covering up a deeper unsettledness the statement had set off, like a pebble dropped into a pool of water. A pool of glassy water into which i had been looking, studying my own reflection. And in that moment, I couldn't see myself clearly anymore and I didn't like it. We never do. But very often we bear the disturbance impatiently until it is gone and we can return to admiring ourselves. And our specialness. Or critiquing ourselves and our unique shortcomings. 

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One Day in Sydney for Introverts

One Day in Sydney for Introverts

There are about a thousand and one things you could do in Sydney if you only have one day. A lot of them will cost rather large amounts of money, and will require expending rather large amounts of energy.

And for budget-conscious and spontaneous travellers like us, the ticket prices on things like the tower, the aquarium & Madame Tassauds, plus the requirement to actually plan your visit and book an arrival time -- well, nope, basically.

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He reached out and grabbed reality and promised to never let it go

He reached out and grabbed reality and promised to never let it go

The green plants with all the insects, alas we have become selfish. He threw his beer glass down and stormed out, determined to make a difference. He knew he wasn't living right. That we had been lured into an easy way of life, but had missed the shades of green, the bees pollinating the flowers, the small roots expanding into a giant. The transforming, morphing of the world. 

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Being an Introvert on the Road

Being an Introvert on the Road

Sometimes it seems like travelling is bad for an introvert. Either it seems to bring so much activity and socialising that it is unsustainably exhausting, or it becomes isolating and lonely because those gaps between us and those around us are just too wide to cross. Either way – the road can be a tiring place.

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Becoming Whole-Hearted Again: Letting Go of Relationship Baggage

Becoming Whole-Hearted Again: Letting Go of Relationship Baggage

There could be something to be said for the old fashioned style of courting. Where the intentions are clear from the start, and hearts are protected by layers of family and propriety. No messy entanglements.

Because those takes years – lifetimes – to unravel.

My past is littered with messy entanglements. (Not all of them romantic, but those are the ones we get the deepest into, quite often.) And since my marriage ended a little while ago, I have been revisting some of these events in my life – sometimes just within my own heart and soul, sometimes seeking out the actual people too.

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Shedding Labels & Finding Unity

Shedding Labels & Finding Unity

...From my hormones, to my body fat percentage, to the way my brain is wired - I don't believe any of those things are incidental or inconsequential.

Neither is the culture I grew up in and its beliefs and attitudes about women, the societal expectations and norms, and my own family's permutations of that. And even the legacy and history of women the world over that has shaped our current times. This all affects me in ways I haven't yet fully grasped, and may never.

And so in all of that, and more that shapes and influences me... who am I?

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Choosing the Wild Road: The Really Life Defining Choices

Choosing the Wild Road: The Really Life Defining Choices

Life is a series of choices

Every moment of the day we are making choices, large and miniscule. What time to get up, what to wear, which leg to put in our pants first, what to eat for breakfast, how many times to chew that bite of toast before swallowing.

Usually many of these will be some combination of automatic, unconscious and habit. They have to be – we’d go insane having to be fully aware of every little thing we do.

Except that when your life is changing, that’s exactly what happens. And exactly what you need to do. When you are stripping away the labels and undefining who you are to see clearly – all these things you’ve been doing on auto-pilot become open for inspection.

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